What is psychotherapy / counselling?
Psychotherapy and counselling helps you to have inside about your life. It will expand your sense of yourself and others and it will help you to understand more. Therapy is a confidential relationship with you at the centre, and includes a mixture of support and constructive challenge. Psychotherapy relationship is different from your friendships. During the sessions you will be able to explore vulnerable, deep and dark parts of yourself which you will never want to expose to your friends. I see therapy/counselling as a creative partnership where client and therapist journey together towards growth and healing. I believe it is the therapeutic relationship that helps us to heal.
What I - Monika (counsellor) can offer…
My approach to therapy is person – centred, as is much relational and embodied. I truly believe that we are all unique and therefore we are the experts on ourselves. I believe we can all be trusted to find our own way through our problems, fears and life crises. I trust that everyone is unique and has within themselves resources to grow, develop and change. The personal growth is allowed by one of the important element of my counselling philosophy, which is therapeutic relationship. Therapeutic relationship is built between you (the client) and me (the therapist). In this therapeutic relationship we are "fellow travellers" meaning that you are an expert of yourself by allowing me to enter your world. I will accompany you, looking at your world and how you experience it; what it feels like to be you.
My therapeutic style…
Central to my work is "the relationship that heals". Healing relationship contains essential elements which are confidentiality, genuineness, deep listening, containment, humour, trust and humility. Confidentiality is maintained by me where feeling of safety and security is created in this therapeutic relationship. My capacity to be open to my own internal world and the way in which it encounters you. I will facilitate the process of change by allowing you to experience it by encouraging your feelings, body sensation and thoughts to be process and explore through our therapeutic relationship. You will experience this through my genuineness or authenticity. Deep listening is another of my core skills where I will hold emotionally charged communications and my ability not only to listen but to deeply hear. Containment requires the presence of me who is free enough from turmoil to be able to receive and contain troubling communications from you. Humour requires ease, relaxation, lightness and versatility. It is necessary to maintaining a sense of perspective in our life. The courage to speak simply and truthfully is the only effective antidote I can think of. Let your ‘yes’ mean ‘yes’ and your ‘no’ mean ‘no’. Humility - the actual word is related to humus, meaning being close to the earth, having one’s feet on the ground, being on an equal par with all others. As a therapist who hold those qualities I trust we will manage to build therapeutic relationship which will allow you to heal and experience personal growth. I agree with S. Levine who wrote "what heal? To heal is to touch with love. That which we previously touched with fear".
Who do I work with?
I enjoy working with a diverse range of people with a wide spectrum of needs and difficulties, with a wide range of cultural backgrounds and identities. My interest is in relationships, attachment, coping mechanisms. My most longstanding professional interests are in trauma such as abuse (physical, sexual, emotional, mental and financial), rape, post-traumatic stress disorder and dissociation. Mental health problems such as paranoia, delusions, hearing voices, personality disorders, borderline personality disorder, schizoid personality disorder, psychosis and schizophrenia and anxiety, generalised anxiety disorder depression, panic disorder, phobias, bipolar disorder/manic depression, suicidal thoughts and self-harm. I am interested in the processes underlying 'symptoms' or 'problems' - these experiences of pain and suffering are often portals to personal growth.
Ethics, supervision and ongoing learning
I subscribe to the BACP and BPS code of ethics. I support myself and people I work with through ongoing engagement in my own clinical supervision, advanced training and personal development. I love learning, and I learn a lot from the people I work with.
Psychotherapy/counselling can be short term or open-ended. I work in Edinburgh and Livingston. In Edinburgh I see clients Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday, in Livingston I see clients on Tuesday and Saturday. I find open-ended work most effective and satisfying. We usually meet weekly at a regular time, as this tends to be the best rhythm to support the work. Sessions last 50 minutes and please go to Fee page to see the cost for it. I offer daytime and evening sessions.
Firstly I suggest we meet for an initial session, to give us both the chance to find out whether we feel we can work well together. As well as exploring what has brought you to therapy, we will discuss confidentiality, and privacy of information, payment arrangements, cancellations, holidays and reviews of the work.
Appointments and enquiries
If you feel that we can work together please contact me via phone or go to contact page.