Here you can find answers to frequent questions which people ask about counselling. If there is something that still isn't answered here, please don't hesitate to contact me by telephone or use contact form to get in touch.
What sort of issues can I bring to counselling?
There are all sorts of issues and problems you can bring to counselling - problems that affect your emotional and physical wellbeing. If problems lie outside my area of expertise I will signpost you to the appropriate service.
How do I know if I need counselling?
You may wish to start receiving counselling to gain clarity or untangle personal issues for self-development or you might just want to share your feelings or change old patterns. Many people are put off counselling because they feel it’s a sign of weakness or that they can't cope with things on their own. This is very far from the truth. Admitting to yourself that you need help or need someone to talk to is a strength, not a weakness. Everyone experiences some issues during life. If you still are experiencing distress and if these issues continue to affect your life, relationships, roles, and work.
What will happen in my counselling sessions?
First Initial Session. During our first initial consultation we will discuss in more detail what has prompted you to contact me; the issue as you see it and any past or current background information you are willing to share at this point. I will explain my therapeutic approach and how this will be shaped in consultation with yourself over the coming sessions. This is a great opportunity for you to ask any questions you might have about your counsellor or counselling in general.
Subsequent sessions. In a session you will be free to talk about your problems and your situation and you will be listened to carefully. I will seek to obtain a deeper understanding of you as possible and find out what is troubling you. I will ask questions that are designed to therapeutically enhance your thinking, your emotions, your behaviour and your way of relating to others. Occasionally you might be puzzled by the questioning. In this case, I would invite you to say so - there will be a reason for pursuing a particular line of enquiry which may not always be immediately obvious. Frequently through sessions we will examine what is happening in the 'here and now' - using your reactions and experiences to generate change and insight, and exploring our relationship and finding opportunities for you to find new ways of relating to others and new ways of being. Generally speaking, therapists do not tell people what to do with their lives - but rather they assist clients to make their own decisions and have the courage and conviction to act upon their decisions. We will regularly review our work together, assess progress and look at how we are relating to each other and how you and I are both experiencing the relationship together.
How many sessions will I require?
The frequency of sessions is variable and is dependent on your needs. We would discuss the frequency of sessions in the regular reviews of our work. The overall length of time you will be in therapy depends upon the nature, severity and extent of your problems and the issues we are addressing and is also determined by how long you want to take. Some people achieve the results they want in just a few weeks, others may take months or even years. It is important that we go at the pace that suits you.
Will my counselling sessions be confidential? Will my privacy be respected? What are the exceptions?
I abide by and adhere to the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy Ethical Framework. As part of that framework, I practice clearly defined confidentiality with all of our clients. This means that you can speak to me knowing that your friends, your family, your work colleagues etc. will not be told what you have said in a counselling session – and neither will my friends, family, work colleagues etc.
There are three exceptions to this: disclosures involving the Terrorism Act; disclosures of yourself as being a danger to others and significant harm to yourself; disclosures which require me to act within their duty of care under the Children Act.
All BACP registered counsellors need to be in regular supervision and some of the material of the sessions would at times be discussed with a counselling supervisor, in an anonymous form, partly to ensure that you receive the best professional support possible in addressing your issues.
How do I make an appointment?
Please call my mobile number to arrange an appointment. If I am in a session please leave a voicemail or text message and I will return your call. Alternatively you can go to contact page and drop me a message. I will contact you as soon as possible.
How long does each session last?
The first consultation will last 50 minutes.
Each session will last for 50 minutes from the time that has been booked.
Can I book a one-off session?
This all depends on your individual needs. No person is the same. This can be discussed in your initial telephone consultation to decide how counselling would benefit you the most.
Can I refer someone I know to counselling?
Yes. You can refer anyone you may think will benefit from counselling but they must be prepared to make their own commitment to attend their sessions.